What to do about abusive caretaker?

I am physically disabled and completely financially dependant on my spouse. I can do many things around the house, but still need a lot of help with basic things such as putting clean dishes away, laundry, and some of the heavier, higher up things in my home. SSD cannot give me anywhere near enough money to live off of. My caretaker is my spouse and they belittle me, puts me down for my disabilties, questions my limitations, and overall just puts me down about my situation. I have offered as much help as possible, 'veI asked him to be nicer and he just gets mad and disappears for a couple days. He leaves me without money, food, or resources to get the things I may need. I know caretaking is very hard on someone and do everything I can to show I appreciate and love what he does for me. My depression is just getting so terrible, he makes me feel so much weaker than I already am. After being treated like that you don't want to do anything anymore. I'm desperate, I don't like divorces, but he refuses to work on the situation, and he treats me worse and worse over my limitations. I offered to throw out all my clothes but 5 mixable outfits so he'd have less to clean. We have gone to a couple of therapists, and whenever they suggest that I need a little support emotionally through my disability he just gets mad and won't go back. I've done everything I can but i'm financially and physically dependant on this person. I don't know what to do to escape.